Possessing the gift of confidence, this person doesn’t seek others’ approval or sympathy to justify their choices. They could be an actor, musician or a successful public speaker. They are comfortable with their sexuality and unafraid of others’ disapproval. Such confidence is a powerful aphrodisiac and can attract people who lack the same level of self-belief. At the same time, they might find it hard to understand that confidence does not come naturally to most of us.

Being a resilient and generally optimistic person, they tend to face life’s challenges head on and are not afraid of suffering. They adapt to new situations and cope well with disappointment and loss, having a mature understanding of relationships and intimacy and are not prone to unrealistic expectations. They have a strong sense of hope and a positive outlook which others find attractive.

They’re not afraid to make decisions or to speak their mind but won’t cut off their nose to spite their face in order to get a point across. They will assert their personality but are mindful of how their approach may affect others, this means they’ll temper their domineering side. If they sense someone has a more assertive personality they will be happy to let them take the lead – especially if by doing so conflict is avoided. Because they tend to know what they want from life and from relationships, they are good at making decisions that will leave other people sure of where they stand.

Trusting others is high on their priorities and is one of the foundation stones on which they build a relationship. If it isn’t there, or someone betrays their trust, they find it quite hard to forget – even if they do manage to forgive. They are fair-minded and accepting and may readily believe a person’s reason for letting them down. Equally, they will feel real feelings of guilt if they feel they have lost someone’s trust. They’ll share their thoughts and passions with others and will come across as open-minded.

They enjoy socializing with friends and come across as friendly; engaging with others quite easily. On nights out they sometimes prefer to sit back and enjoy the show while others take centre stage. Dinner parties with friends where the banter and laughter flows easily may appeal to them more than wild nights on the town with new and different people. They come across as relaxed and happy and know when to ‘call it a night’. As long they have enough ‘me’ time they’ll always have time for friends.

Although on the surface this person seems to ride life as though it’s the crest of a wave – they have called the coast guard for information about tides beforehand! They are excited by new challenges and are happy to ‘go with the flow’ and try new experiences. They’ll be up for a spontaneous after-work drink with friends but not if it means they miss the last bus home. They’re independent and take balanced risks. They will be happy to date someone who is out of their comfort zone for the experience but when their instincts about a person or situation kick in, they’ll stop and listen. Although they’re ready for fun, they certainly wouldn’t call themselves reckless.

Although there are times when this person wants to buck the trend, they get a sense of security and belonging from traditional values. They like the idea of the ‘white picket fence’ but may want to paint it blue or green. They have respect for rules and institutions and feel comfortable with the way things are. They won’t resist change if there is a good reason for it, and embrace the part of modern life that they see as being ‘forward-thinking’. However, they do like to root their beliefs in what has gone before.

Because they’re a sensitive soul inside, they can sometimes present a seemingly impervious outer-shell to protect themselves from psychological slings and arrows. They may be tempted to ‘fire the first shot’ in order to deflect any criticism even before it happens. Being sensitive – especially to the feelings of others - is a very attractive quality and displaying their soft side may bring out feelings of protectiveness in others.