They are a forceful and dominant personality with a clear idea of what they want from life. They are not afraid of showing their displeasure with others’ inadequacies and don’t suffer fools gladly. They are authoritative and good “leadership material” as long as they temper their self-belief with an enlightened understanding of and empathy for human weakness. They tend to control their relationships and make important decisions without procrastinating. While some partners find this reassuring and desirable, others might like to experience them relinquishing control more often.

Being a resilient and generally optimistic person, they tend to face life’s challenges head on and are not afraid of suffering. They adapt to new situations and cope well with disappointment and loss, having a mature understanding of relationships and intimacy and are not prone to unrealistic expectations. They have a strong sense of hope and a positive outlook which others find attractive.

They’re certainly no wallflower but sometimes there may be chinks in the confident exterior. Although unflappable most of the time, they are able to take the opinions of others on board and are able to deal with criticism quite well. Being comfortable with who they are means they don’t actively seek approval but do appreciate it when it comes their way; it makes them feel good about themselves. Because they can have moments when they’re a bit unsure of themselves, they’re perfectly placed to boost the confidence of others.

They enjoy socializing with friends and come across as friendly; engaging with others quite easily. On nights out they sometimes prefer to sit back and enjoy the show while others take centre stage. Dinner parties with friends where the banter and laughter flows easily may appeal to them more than wild nights on the town with new and different people. They come across as relaxed and happy and know when to ‘call it a night’. As long they have enough ‘me’ time they’ll always have time for friends.

Although on the surface this person seems to ride life as though it’s the crest of a wave – they have called the coast guard for information about tides beforehand! They are excited by new challenges and are happy to ‘go with the flow’ and try new experiences. They’ll be up for a spontaneous after-work drink with friends but not if it means they miss the last bus home. They’re independent and take balanced risks. They will be happy to date someone who is out of their comfort zone for the experience but when their instincts about a person or situation kick in, they’ll stop and listen. Although they’re ready for fun, they certainly wouldn’t call themselves reckless.

They’re in control and call a spade a spade. People always know exactly where they stand with them, which is a valuable commodity. Although others may see them as quite strong, they don’t mind displaying their soft side now and then, especially when they think others need their support and comfort. They often know exactly what to say but may feel they need a bit of practice in how to say things.

Trusting others is high on their priorities and is one of the foundation stones on which they build a relationship. If it isn’t there, or someone betrays their trust, they find it quite hard to forget – even if they do manage to forgive. They are fair-minded and accepting and may readily believe a person’s reason for letting them down. Equally, they will feel real feelings of guilt if they feel they have lost someone’s trust. They’ll share their thoughts and passions with others and will come across as open-minded.

Although there are times when this person wants to buck the trend, they get a sense of security and belonging from traditional values. They like the idea of the ‘white picket fence’ but may want to paint it blue or green. They have respect for rules and institutions and feel comfortable with the way things are. They won’t resist change if there is a good reason for it, and embrace the part of modern life that they see as being ‘forward-thinking’. However, they do like to root their beliefs in what has gone before.