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School Sports Trauma: Is it a Gay Thing?
Dominic James shares his personal experience of sport at school and discusses why being gay seems so inextricably linked with a horror of team sports.
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Gay Rights, should we all stop fussing?
Gay TV and Radio personality, Evan Davies, claims the fight for gay rights has been won and we should all stop fussing. Dominic James disagrees.
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Am I a Sex Addict?
If there is such an illness as sex addiction, gay men and women may be more prone than most. It can form a vicious cycle of shame, anxiety and isolation.
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What Makes Us Gay?
The evidence for nature over nurture underpins the argument for human rights for gay men and women but is still far from conclusive, writes Dominic James.
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Coming out: The effect on our mothers
“Patricia”, a 69 year-old mother and divorcee, shares her experience of the coming out of her eldest son and husband.
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Top 5 Lesbian Dating Tips
Our dating and relationship expert, April, offers lesbians 5 tips on developing lasting and intimate relationships beyond the first date.
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Quakers Embrace Us!
Having spent over 20 years arguing for the acceptance of same sex relationships as equal to straight, Quakers now take a big step forward.
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Coming Out Online: the Good and the Not So Good
Facebook provides a quick and easy way to declare your sexuality to the world. Is it such a good idea?
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Who are you representing?
Our dating expert challenges us to rip off our masks when dating and be prepared to reveal the
Trueself
, warts and all.
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A Cure for Homosexuality?
Alarmingly, a significant minority of therapists offer treatment for homosexuality. Dominic James shares his thoughts on the subject.
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Are you tempted to Double Dip?
Greg Halpen, our dating expert, highlights the perils of 'Double Dipping' and extols the virtues of an honest approach to dating
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Playing the Relationship Game
Chris Biddle writes inspiringly about the benefits of approaching the search for a relationship as you might a game of strategy, and above all a game of fun!
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Pride London 2009
Celebration, integration, remembrance... and some outrageous outfits. Tom Dick and Sally's thoughts on Pride London.
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A Response: Gay Muslims in the UK
Responding to our Hot Topic, a Gay Muslim shares his thoughts on progress made but battles still to be fought...
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The Language of Online Love
Getting to know a potential partner online can create a great basis for an honest and open relationship when you meet in real life.
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Tom, Dick and Sally: The Story so far
It seems there really is an appetite for a dating community built upon intelligent foundations, honesty and openness. Now we need your ideas and feedback!
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Gay Muslims in the UK: Progress?
With the advent of civil partnerships it is easy to forget that significant sections of the gay community in the UK live in fear.
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What on earth should I write?!
You've received a message or a flirt. How quickly does that initial thrill shift to a sense of foreboding; what on earth should I write?
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Does Dating Frighten You?
Greg Halpen, a gay relationship expert in the US, highlights how scary dating can be but offers some sound and practical advice.
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Tom, Dick & Sally's Top 10... Lesbian films!
Tears, laughter, embarrassing confessions… and that was just putting the top 10 together!
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It's not what you say, it's how you blink!
A wonderful guide to the way body movements can reveal how interested a potential partner is – and just what you might be revealing to them.
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We’re anti-fat & our own worst enemies!
Gay men and lesbians are more fixated with body image than any other social segment. But how does that make us feel about ourselves?
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Creating a Sparkling Profile
Less is more as you think about what to divulge to potential dates on line; leave talking about your boxed set of Prisoner 'til you actually meet!
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It only takes a minute girl... to fall in love
Can it really be true that within the first 3 to 6 minutes, we tend to make snap judgments that can determine the long term success of a relationship?
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Tom, Dick and Sally's Top 10... Gay films!
This was no easy task! Have a look and let us know if you think we got it right. We will be publishing TomDickandSally's Top 10 Lesbian films very soon.
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